Your teen faces many choices each day, between right and wrong, healthy and unhealthy, honesty and deceit, popularity or independence, the world's way or God's way. The struggle can confuse your teenagers in the midst of trying to figure out what they are going to believe and what kind of people they want to be. Turning choices and decisions into Bible games gives your teen a low-key, nonthreatening way to learn to navigate wisely through the rocky experiences of life.
Create several choose-your-path tales of decision-making that teens face, such as to do homework or go socialize with friends or play a game, whether to go to college, which classes to take, what to believe, to follow traffic laws or not, to drink alcohol, smoke or take drugs or engage in sexual activity. Incorporate several decision points where the teen has to choose a path and learn the material, physical and spiritual consequences. You can repeat the same tale several times with different choices to explore the different results of good and bad choices in the light of Proverbs 14:12: "There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death."
Galatians 6:7-8 clearly establishes that a person will reap the consequences of his choices. You can help your teen start prioritizing what is worth his time and which activities should be optional or eliminated by writing out some cards of what vies for his time and attention. Have your teen secretly arrange the cards in order of most important to least important to him. Challenge a friend or sibling to arrange a second set of matching cards in the same priority order he thinks your teen would. Compare stacks and discuss which activities are most important and why.
Who to Follow
Teenagers face a lot of peer pressure to follow along with the crowd but Psalm 118:8 warns, "It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man." If you have a group of teenagers, gather in a circle and send one person out of the room. Select one leader whose actions everyone will follow discreetly, not letting on who the leader is. Call the absent person back into the room and give her three opportunities to observe and guess who is leading the action. As a follow-up, you can discuss what responsibility it puts on the leader to know everyone will imitate her, what happens when the leader fails or makes a poor choice and whether circumstances exist in which you should not obey the leader. Compare human leadership to God's leadership to highlight that He can never fail or let your teen down or lead him astray. When in doubt, let your teen know that God's way is always the best choice.
The teen years are a crucial time for your teenager to decide what she is going to believe. Many ideas of truth are floating around, but the Bible says, "I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live." Explore the idea of lies that sound plausibly true by reading out a list of three or four almost true but slightly inaccurate statements and one truth. Challenge your teen to distinguish the impostors and identify the truth. Discuss the importance of knowing real spiritual truth so as not to fall for the counterfeits.
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