A dictatorial parent, also known as an authoritarian parent, will set strict rules, guidelines and boundaries within his household. He will provide clear expectations to the children -- his word is law and the family members can expect to be punished if they do not follow instructions to the letter. This parent rules the household through absolute control and expects complete obedience without question to maintain order.
In such an authoritarian relationship, the rules are set and not up for discussion or debate. They are usually well-defined and made perfectly clear to the entire family. There are no gray areas or confusion as to who is in charge or what needs to be done. Children have the advantage of knowing exactly what is expected of them at all times and also what the consequences will be if rules are not followed explicitly. Household members depend on the parent to instruct them on all aspects of their home life.
Timely and Productive
When there is no give and take, time is not needed for discussion or argument. Chores, projects and homework will proceed much more quickly and efficiently, as no time is necessary for questioning, arguments, suggestions, changes or lack of leadership. Everyone knows their place and the time frames in which they are expected to perform assigned duties. This is not unlike the military, where precision and order are used to keep an orderly and productive unit ready at all times.
Dictatorial parenting can be very inflexible. The parent will not be open to alternative methods of conducting household business. Communication in family meetings and one-on-one communication with family members can be almost nonexistent and bonding to children extremely minimal. Household members will not learn how to think for themselves and will rely on other authorities to make decisions for them later in life. They may become very introverted and lack self-esteem and any type of spontaneity or creativity.
A child who is given instructions on everything he is expected to do will grow up needing guidance in all areas of his life. He will not be able to think tasks out for himself and may lack initiative in both starting and completing projects without supervision. He may also lack confidence in himself and his ability to think creatively and be unable to contribute fully to his workplace or home life demands and challenges. A child's spirit can be greatly stifled in such an autocratic environment, resulting in timidity and an introverted personality.
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